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Porn use in relationships isn’t always about desire for other people. Often, it’s a way to regulate anxiety, avoid vulnerability, or feel in control when emotional intimacy feels overwhelming. This article explores the nervous-system roots of porn use—and how understanding the “why” can open the door to real connection and repair.

Have you ever tried to calmly work something out, only to end up being blamed, criticized, or attacked instead? You weren’t trying to start a fight. You weren’t trying to hurt anyone. You were trying to be fair. So why did the conversation suddenly shift from problem-solving to character attacks? If this sounds familiar, the issue usually isn’t poor communication. It’s something deeper — and once you understand it, a lot of confusing relationship dynamics start to make sense.

When your marriage feels like walking on eggshells, it’s often a nervous system response to emotional threat — not a lack of love. This article explains why couples get stuck in tension, how survival mode shows up in marriage, and what helps restore emotional safety.

When love triggers anxiety, shutdown, or emotional overwhelm, it’s often the nervous system responding to perceived threat — not a lack of love. This article explores why relationships can activate survival mode instead of safety, and how to understand what your body is reacting to.